I don't think the tracks are creepy, I think the collection of them together being sent to someone you broke up with 15 years ago along with stalker letters is creepy.

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Yeah we got that.

Certainly she would. As it turns out, she gets a say in that.

Lovely philosophy. Not everyone will share that view. She doesn't.

Maybe she wanted you to feel the confusion she felt when you silently broke up with her.

Yep, on the other hand you haven't talked to her for 15 years. Suddenly you come around an old photograph and start to write love letters. Way too late, I'm sorry.

For your own sake, you'd better do it. Face it, most people work like this to get over unpleasant things. For her you are 15 year old faded memory that was replaced by whole new set of memories. Don't poke in it any further.

Well I sort of agree with you. "You make your choices and you live with them." The choices and their consequences are what shapes us, the memory (and the past) is what aggregates these memories and derives experience from them. Our past is good for learning from our mistakes, for having a good laugh at something funny that happened to us or for having good moments reviving beautiful moments of our lives.

But it rapidly becomes our enemy when you wallow in the self pity due to bad decisions made on the road to the present. And that's what I think has happened to you at that time you have to step away and just live with that. As has been said before, it was ok to write a letter, but you did that in the wrong way.

They're not stalker letters, and I'm tired of being called a stalker. Get your fucking facts straight :

I never willingly or knowingly harassed her in any way. Some things may or may not have been inappropriate depending on how she remembered me, but I don't think anything I did constitutes sexual harassment. I didn't make any lewd advances or crude comments, all I did (at least in my mind) was tell her how I feel about her. If that made her uncomfortable (and I guess it did judging by her final reaction) that was never my intent, nor did I believe it would.

By 'all this' I meant escalating what I imagined to be a fairly innocent communication into threats of police action. Ignoring people you used to know well / intimately seems kind of juvenile to me. Civil people usually respond when asked if someone will forgive them or they are asked how they are doing.

That is certainly not something that I want her to feel. What do you suggest I do? In my third letter I apologized for saying anything inappropriate or anything that made her uncomfortable, but I guess it didn't matter to her.

I know some people here would definitely disagree with this, but what If I sent her a really brief Christmas card, saying something like :

I'm sorry I hurt you.
I'm sorry if I made you uncomfortable by anything I said to you.
I will not contact you further.
Have a Merry Christmas, and good bye. Farewell.

Would it give her grounds for a harassment lawsuit? Do you think she would actually go to the police for saying good bye and letting her know I won't speak to her further?

Do not, I repeat, do NOT contact her again. Forget about her and move on with your own life.

She said she'd go to the police if you kept contacting her. If that isn't a strong signal/reason enough for you to STOP IT then what do you think she should do to stop you?

It does not matter at all what YOU or anyone else here think(s) about the whole issue. You have to let it go, she told you to stop, so that's what you do: No final note, no christmas card, nothing: Do NOT contact her again, ever. Move on.

That's the problem. Don't send her a Christmas card. Don't send her another goodbye letter. Don't send her anything.

Send her a picture of Matthew on his motorcycle. Then she will be all over you.

I think the only thing you did wrong was come on WAY too strong. I thought I was bad... you gotta start small with someone you haven't seen in 15 years, feel it out, and if she shows interest, gradually build up to something. If instead she says don't contact me again, respect that.

I'm not a shrink and I can't read your mind, but it seems like you might have just remembered all the good times and not really thought of how things have changed over time. You gotta remember, life goes on, people change. You'll never forget her and what you had but also, you and her will never be the same people as back then.

Trust me, he has no right to criticize music.

The point is that there's no benefit to remembering the past. Thinking about her now won't make you happy. It will make you want her more. It will make you sad because things are different now and she is different now. You can think about her all you want, but none of it is real. It's all imaginary. It's all a faded memory. The best thing that you can do is to stop thinking about her, even though you don't want to. Getting rid of everything is a good first step to moving on. It's letting go. It's hard to stop thinking about something if you are regularly reminded of it.

I only suggested it because I thought she might feel better if I told her I wasn't going to contact her anymore. That's all. Saying good bye might make her feel like it (whatever it is/was) is over.

She's established that she thinks you are crazy. So nothing you say in a Christmas card will be believable. It would only ruin her holiday just as she was forgetting about ever receiving your letters.

As far as she knows, you'd then follow up a month later asking if she got your Christmas card and making sure she knew it was over, and that you just wanted her to let you know that she got your card. And so on.

Any attempt made to contact her again will undoubtedly result in a visit from the police, or worse, her husband.

While I agree I think you're not having a perspective in there. It's been 15 years since you've dumped her. I bet you were a faded memory and until she read that you were her date on the high school prom she hadn't had a slightest idea who the hell is sending her a letter.

What is more, the content of the letter most certainly creeped her out, so the best thing is to ignore it and hope no more are coming your way, if they do, respond with police threat. On the other hand, you could have gotten your reply if your first letter would have been a very short one.

At the end of the day, there are of course people who simply don't care and ignore such things - it's some kind of self defence and partly laziness I think - in a way that you ignore unpleasant things.