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Matthew Leverton
Supreme Loser
January 1999
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Wait, WHAT! WTF is she doing going to dinner with me if she has a boyfriend?

It means she wants to cheat on him. If they don't want to cheat, they insert "my boyfriend" in the first sentence they say.

Boy> "Hello, it sure is a nice day!"

Girl> "Yeah, my boyfriend would think so too."

bamccaig
Member #7,536
July 2006
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Possumdude0 said:

Wait, WHAT! WTF is she doing going to dinner with me if she has a boyfriend?

Is it possible she considered it hanging out with a friend as opposed to a date? :-/ Either way, I agree with you that taking another guy's girlfriend is low. I also agree with manjula that if this girl does dump her boyfriend for you it would only be a matter of time...

HardTranceFan
Member #7,317
June 2006
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Girls are not a male possession. They, and this may come as a surprise to some, are just like the blokes, minus a dangley thing between the legs and a bit more padding at the nipple area (yes, sure there are some guys with bigger man-breasts than some women's breasts, but that's getting a bit picky and pedantic).

They also have a mind of their own and make their own decisions. If she wants to drop, or cheat on, her boyfriend, it's her choice. No one is stealing her from him, she'd be making a conscious decision to cheat or drop. It happens in the animal kingdom. It happens in ours.

For the guy who loses his girlfriend, 2 words: fish, sea. :-X

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Steve++
Member #1,816
January 2002

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Yeah. I know. And like I said earlier, I wouldn't want to steal another guy's girlfriend, because I wouldn't want mine stolen if I had one.

Stop making excuses for taking the easy way out. She's not married. It's quite obvious she's putting herself out there for the taking. Her boyfriend is probably boning her best friend while she's out of town anyway. I would ;D.

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if she dumps her bf for you, you can be sure that you may end up in the same boat one day.

I completely disagree. She probably doesn't like her bf that much, so now that she has experienced what she doesn't want, she probably has a better idea of what she does want.

Richard Phipps
Member #1,632
November 2001
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Be honest with her. Tell her you like her and are now confused about this. It will be painful in the short term, but could save months of frustration and pain..

Slartibartfast
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June 2007
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If she wants to drop, or cheat on, her boyfriend, it's her choice.

Well, then there's also the problem that has been mentioned earlier; If she decides to cheat on her boyfriend that would suggest that once she is your girlfriend she will be more likely to cheat on you.

jhuuskon
Member #302
April 2000
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Haha, this thread is golden.

However, it is almost as sad as my life as of late.

Other people lie to each other, themselves and me. But while I keep lying to myself to get through the day without grabbing the best of ropes, I don't lie to other people. And it is me who gets scoffed for speaking my mind. I hate people.

You don't deserve my sig.

Billybob
Member #3,136
January 2003

$20 says he's back with another tale saying how everything is awesome again.

HardTranceFan
Member #7,317
June 2006
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Well, then there's also the problem that has been mentioned earlier; If she decides to cheat on her boyfriend that would suggest that once she is your girlfriend she will be more likely to cheat on you.

So don't take her on as a girlfriend.

But this doesn't help the OP out much. Helping her cheat is a moral dilema for him, and so not the best course of action. Alternatively, if he befriends her and gets to know her, it could end up that she may have some single friends the he can hook up with.

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"Shame your mind don't shine like your possessions do" - Faithless (I want more part 1)

Neil Black
Member #7,867
October 2006
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If she wants to drop, or cheat on, her boyfriend, it's her choice. No one is stealing her from him, she'd be making a conscious decision to cheat or drop.

What I mean by stealing someone's girlfriend is getting her to make that conscious decision. That's what I've always thought of the phrase "Stealing his girlfriend" meant, because obviously you can't literally steal a person.

bamccaig
Member #7,536
July 2006
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HardTranceFan said:

For the guy who loses his girlfriend, 2 words: fish, sea. :-X

For the guy who knowingly takes my girlfriend, 2 words: bang, bang.

wearetheborg
Queen of the Universe
June 2003

Well, it wasn't even a date to begin with... Come on, you went to a fast food restaurant. She probably thought you wanted to hang out as friends. Maybe she would have understood better if the setting had been more romantic.

I doubt this is going to work. :-/

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BAF
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December 2002
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you can't literally steal a person.

I've got a crowbar, some duct tape, and a large duffel bag here that say otherwise.

Neil Black
Member #7,867
October 2006
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Ok, you can't literally steal a person without committing a felony. Is that better? ::)

De Baimbo
Member #8,944
August 2007
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HardTranceFan said:

But this doesn't help the OP out much.

I guess that doesn't mean Object Programming :) ???

Ok, I don't spend my time stealing girlfriends, but what if you really like her? Wouldn't you do all you can to see if there's a minimal chance for her to have feelings for you?

HardTranceFan
Member #7,317
June 2006
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For the guy who knowingly takes my girlfriend, 2 words: bang, bang.

That's the kind of possessiveness that I was talking about. It's scary, and wrong. If she willingly leaves you, it's because she feels there's someone better than you for her, regardless of whether that's correct or not. Accept it, and move on.

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"Shame your mind don't shine like your possessions do" - Faithless (I want more part 1)

GullRaDriel
Member #3,861
September 2003
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Men, kiss was good no ? Give her a fuck ( do not forget the condoms ).

You have just found what us Frenchies call "Une grosse cochone".

"Code is like shit - it only smells if it is not yours"
Allegro Wiki, full of examples and articles !!

nonnus29
Member #2,606
August 2002
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That's the kind of possessiveness that I was talking about.

You're obviously not acquainted with the testerone fueled Machismo that governs so much of the population here. I usually equate it with hispanics where I'm from.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Machismo

Andrei Ellman
Member #3,434
April 2003

Has she spoken about her BF yet and from what she says, is their relationship heading the way of the wrecked train?

If she wants to cheat/dump her boyfriend - that's her choice - not yours. Not only does it mean that you shoudn't put preassure on her, but it also means that if she decides for herself, you do not need to feel guilty.

Also, just because she dumps her boyfriend, it does not nescescarily mean she's a slut - it could also mean that she may have made a mistake when she picked her BF.

AE.

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HardTranceFan
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June 2006
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You're obviously not acquainted with the testerone fueled Machismo that governs so much of the population here.

== guys that think with their dicks, not their minds? No, my circle of mates aren't into competing for macho stakes. We can't be arsed worrying if we're more man than the next guy. Life's too short, and we're too old, for that bullshit.

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"Shame your mind don't shine like your possessions do" - Faithless (I want more part 1)

Kwame Alexander
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August 2003
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nonnus29 said:

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When I was 21, I got sick of it and remembered an excellent quote that I once read. "It's not enough to merely face your fears. You must run screaming toward them,"

I tried that one time; talking to any girl in sight. Didn't take long before I wasn't rejected. So when the girl was actually receptive to talking to me I was like 'wow, now what do I do? I wasn't really attracted to this girl in the first place.....'

The point of that exercise isn't necessarily to get a girl. The point is to beat down the fear of rejection. If a girl becomes attracted, there's no rule that says you have to follow through and make a relationship of it.

It's hard to believe that there are many fish in the sea when you're afraid to bring out your rod.

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Neil Black
Member #7,867
October 2006
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"It's not enough to merely face your fears. You must run screaming toward them,"

Where does this quote come from? I tried using Google but I didn't see anything relevant.

Well, except for this thread. Use an exact copy-paste and this is all you get.

Kwame Alexander
Member #3,759
August 2003
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I spent a while on Google trying to find the author of that quote so I could properly attribute it (and in doing so, seem more intellectual than I actually am), but I couldn't find it either. I may not have written it down correctly. I shall begin my search anew!

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piccolo
Member #3,163
January 2003
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Wait, what? That's right, she moves back to Canada at Christmas. She especially can't wait to see her boyfriend again.

Wait, WHAT! WTF is she doing going to dinner with me if she has a boyfriend?

crap i hope she did not get a free meal out of you i hope you made her pay for half.

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HardTranceFan
Member #7,317
June 2006
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;D

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"Shame your mind don't shine like your possessions do" - Faithless (I want more part 1)



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