That's why we have the second amendment

Inphernic: If there was ever an occasion where I appreciated one of your posts, it'd be that one

Which brought me to last advice I'm going to give, if he's actually reading them, go to a doctor*.

_{*psychologist, of course.}

Sure, but being obsessed is also unhealthy.

Which is why I never said it was. There may be valid reasons why people get upset, but they're still not good reasons.

I'm not sure if anyone has suggested this yet, but you need some professional counseling. I honestly do mean this in the nicest possible way.

A lot of people here see you as "emo", but I think the problem is much deeper than that. You need to start dealing with your issues, and I don't think that you helping yourself is enough... I mean you listen to depressing music, you can't get a hold of yourself when you are in situations that remind you of her, and you keep trying to justify your behaviour. You are unable to help yourself at this point, and you need to realize that.

I could recommend that to half of A.cc. In fact, everybody can benefit from professional counseling. Unfortunately, professional counseling comes at a cost.

For the record, it has been suggested and I have considered it in the past, but I'm not to a point where I need it like some of you think.
[quote ]A lot of people here see you as "emo", but I think the problem is much deeper than that. You need to start dealing with your issues, and I don't think that you helping yourself is enough... I mean you listen to depressing music, you can't get a hold of yourself when you are in situations that remind you of her, and you keep trying to justify your behaviour.
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What do you mean by "you can't get a hold of yourself..."? Obviously I do get a hold of myself or I wouldn't function.

I wonder if psychologists ever diagnose "emo"... You're not children, grow up.

And.. here's Johnny!
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I'd point fingers, but apparently, I bit them all off. Huh, fancy that. I had to use allegro 5.0 just to post this...

Not to mention we are only digital infarctions of your mind (which is even more evidence you need to see a shrink pronto, being that you believe in digital fairies, you nutso).

No... Half of a.cc members are just socially inept, not mentally imbalanced. You are dealing with obsession, and you also need to learn some coping skills for life's tough situations (because clearly, listening to depressing music isn't much of a remedy).

Look at the title of this thread. You were SHAKING! The interesting part is that you didn't even see her... You saw her sister for god's sake. That is not a normal or healthy reaction. What's even more interesting is that you never even dated her. Like many high school friendships, this one dissolved, however you are unable to accept that. You are so obsessed with this girl (even though you never dated!) that you now view all women as evil. Yes, you are obsessed.

Please take your own advice. It would help you and your friends/family.

I'm sure if you talked to a medical professional you would get a much better explanation. In any case, getting upset is a natural and uncontrollable response. I haven't considered exactly why before, nor have I studied it, but obviously there is benefit or we wouldn't do it.

For example, when somebody you care about dies you need to deal with it. Regardless of how it can always be described as getting upset. Some people cry, some people lash out, some people build a mansion out of glass bottles, etc., etc. That's a natural response, and it can all be considered "getting upset." It's a necessary response, and though some ways of dealing with it are better than others, you're still upset regardless of how you handle it.

I assume you're implying then that I am mentally imbalanced. A qualified psychologist would never consider diagnosing a mental imbalance from a Web forum so what makes you superior? What are you basing your conclusion on?

Yeah, if you haven't noticed shaking is a common reaction to many emotions. Excitement, fear, anger, sadness. Shaking isn't enough to diagnose a mental imbalance.

It's not natural or healthy to get excited or nervous when you see somebody you know for the first time in months? Perhaps you missed the part that I was just as close to Jen's sister as I was to Jen.