Damn it's somehow difficult to write about things you don't understand. Took me quite a while to sit down to write that reply O.O
>Posted for entertainment purposes only
It was a success when I read it first time, A+
I suppose I understand now what you mean about the selective attention. Yes, it's there. I could now recall attempts to choose correct words while touching sensitive topics in conversations with others, so that to avoid direct associations with the very sensitive topics. I'm not sure I thought about it deeply though, however.. Although it is a interesting topic, due to me being concerned about general motivation, and not momentary manipulation it's not relevant. The selective attention is something momentary, you're rather not likely(or at least I don't think it's a right thing to do), to keep ones attention off from something permanently(without'em thinking about the thing at all, practically keeping them in an illusion): you can't try to hide the fact she's fat, if she really is. At least I won't bother trying to
Though maybe I'm literally wrong.
>What I'm trying to say is: ...
I love it how you put all together.
As of new separate goals, well.. Idea of the selective attention is to miss something which is visible, I can't see how selective attention is relevant here.. Perhaps only if a large set of goals within the same action could hide the fact it requires effort. "Showing off" as the expectancy effect.. Could be.
I agree with you that human mind can be regarded as a directed graph.
>I personally believe the will to do something is a maximum of the amount of 'concepts' or 'associations' you can manipulate. And I think language is a great way to introduce new concepts.
>Sounds that good, eh? ...
I don't think it's productive, nor do I think it's even good to project it towards those will regard it as a weakness. It sure is a right scenario for every small society, practically it's so more or less in between me and I want to think all those around me. But there are cases when it should be shut. I'm also not sure attachment is always a bad thing, although it does create dependency.
>The trouble with the "who's right" game is that those who play it refuse to..
It maybe sometimes bit hard to admit, but once again.. Common sense. Practically you could replace each of the models with it. You shouldn't just be busy giving, but sometimes explaining something and defending your course of actions maybe practical. As well as admitting it was wrong(if it was), and letting others see their actions are wrong. And if they don't wanna admit that cos' it's a defeat, maybe they need some help in actually getting defeated?
>Dare I say you're a mad man with "quotations"?
Thought about it myself. As long as I can still be understood it saves a LOT of time from both sides, reading and writing.
>The best results for making requests, or encouraging someone to do something, are achieved through positive and non-violent communication.
>In your first example in the OP, when you're asking someone to do something, the best thing is to usually believe that they can or will do it and communicate that belief to them. If you can't shake a belief that they cannot do what you're asking, or that they will not do what you're asking, maybe it's best not to ask them in the first place
>.. fatty chicka ..
So here she needs most support- agreed, yet on the other hand- perhaps she really can't, and should not invest effort in to what is futile.
>Communication is subjective.
[edited a bit, for clearer thoughts(yes it was even more clouded before)]