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I Guess My Parachute Opened? |
bamccaig
Member #7,536
July 2006
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Edgar Reynaldo said:
Edgar said: Take her out to somewhere neutral, like a musuem or art gallery. If she still likes you, try going to a concert or a show together somewhere.
We don't have museums or art galleries in town (and if we do, I won't enjoy them [and neither would anybody with me]). -- acc.js | al4anim - Allegro 4 Animation library | Allegro 5 VS/NuGet Guide | Allegro.cc Mockup | Allegro.cc <code> Tag | Allegro 4 Timer Example (w/ Semaphores) | Allegro 5 "Winpkg" (MSVC readme) | Bambot | Blog | C++ STL Container Flowchart | Castopulence Software | Check Return Values | Derail? | Is This A Discussion? Flow Chart | Filesystem Hierarchy Standard | Clean Code Talks - Global State and Singletons | How To Use Header Files | GNU/Linux (Debian, Fedora, Gentoo) | rot (rot13, rot47, rotN) | Streaming |
Arthur Kalliokoski
Second in Command
February 2005
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Matthew Leverton said: This is all silliness! Just proceed as normal, as if nothing happened. When she asks you why you never called, pretend you don't understand. She will think she is making it all up. Then she will want you very badly. But she'll see his parachute is still open... They all watch too much MSNBC... they get ideas. |
Evert
Member #794
November 2000
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bamccaig said: That would be a lot easier if I met women regularly. I never meet women. That's why I had to ask this one at work...
Ok, first of all. Quote: I was asking more for ideas of what to do with her (i.e., go bowling, see a movie, ...). Nothing I can think of seems like a non-date. At this stage, I don't think there's anything you can suggest that doesn't seem like a date. Personally, I'd just go for coffee or something like that (after work or during a break?): it's informal, you can both easily get out if/when you want to, you can talk and get to know eachother (not so easy at the cinema) and you can figure out what you'd both like to do for a followup, if anything. If there's a coffee place you've been meaning to try, say that that's where you'd like to go. |
23yrold3yrold
Member #1,134
March 2001
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I'll pipe in and say hang with her in a group setting, but you seem to have discounted that already. Capitalize on common interests. And if you don't know of any, either find some or don't be friends. Chat her up more before calling her; if something doesn't volunteer itself after a few chats, maybe you should raise your standards beyond "cute". Anyway, women can smell the neediness on men so now that you know she's spoken for, literally treat her as a friend. Otherwise you'll weird her out if she's not into you, and bore her if she is. -- |
bamccaig
Member #7,536
July 2006
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23yrold3yrold said: I'll pipe in and say hang with her in a group setting, but you seem to have discounted that already.
To hang with her in a group setting there has to be a group. I don't have a group, and I'm the one that has her number. I can't very well call her up to suggest we do something with her friends. 23yrold3yrold said:
Capitalize on common interests. And if you don't know of any, either find some or don't be friends. Chat her up more before calling her; if something doesn't volunteer itself after a few chats, maybe you should raise your standards beyond "cute".
I don't know how to chat somebody up. I have no idea what you're supposed to talk about. I can't do small talk. I have absolutely no idea how people do. My brain just becomes a puddle of goo. What I need is a socialization coach. -- acc.js | al4anim - Allegro 4 Animation library | Allegro 5 VS/NuGet Guide | Allegro.cc Mockup | Allegro.cc <code> Tag | Allegro 4 Timer Example (w/ Semaphores) | Allegro 5 "Winpkg" (MSVC readme) | Bambot | Blog | C++ STL Container Flowchart | Castopulence Software | Check Return Values | Derail? | Is This A Discussion? Flow Chart | Filesystem Hierarchy Standard | Clean Code Talks - Global State and Singletons | How To Use Header Files | GNU/Linux (Debian, Fedora, Gentoo) | rot (rot13, rot47, rotN) | Streaming |
Arthur Kalliokoski
Second in Command
February 2005
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bamccaig said: I don't know how to chat somebody up. You talk about what they are interested in. To find out takes a bit of "small talk" where canned responses from her won't work. Protip: If she starts explaining things you already know, pretend you don't know and you're glad to be informed about it unless it's something you've already told her you're an expert at. They all watch too much MSNBC... they get ideas. |
23yrold3yrold
Member #1,134
March 2001
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bamccaig said: I don't know how to chat somebody up.
I'm sure there's an FAQ online. Arthur Kalliokoski said: You talk about what they are interested in. This goes double when talking to a girl. -- |
Evert
Member #794
November 2000
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bamccaig said: I have no idea what you're supposed to talk about. That film you saw the other day (which they also saw). The weather. A book you read. What you do at work. What you want to do in the future. Something you care about and can talk about animatedly. And obviously not something the other party of the conversation has no interest in what so ever. Quote: I can't do small talk. I have absolutely no idea how people do. My brain just becomes a puddle of goo. That's why you're going to talk to this girl, to learn (although, if you have an opportunity to do some small-talk with colleagues first, do so; the longer you can keep the conversation going, the better). It's actually ok to be shy and awkward, but you have to be ok with it. And when you are ok with it, typically, you won't really be shy and awkward anymore.
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piccolo
Member #3,163
January 2003
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dude is she want to be friends be friends with her. just make sure jump on her girl firends. dont try for her if she said she has a boy friend. wow |
AMCerasoli
Member #11,955
May 2010
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Karadoc ~~
Member #2,749
September 2002
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Johan Halmén said: She has a boyfriend. She gave you her number. What kind of girl is that. ... My advice is to move on to the next one that doesn't have a boyfriend. Are you saying that if a girl has a boyfriend she should refrain from making any other male friends? Jealousy stinks. ----------- |
Arthur Kalliokoski
Second in Command
February 2005
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Samuel Henderson
Member #3,757
August 2003
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bamccaig said: We don't have museums or art galleries in town (and if we do, I won't enjoy them [and neither would anybody with me]). We have both actually (in fact we have a couple museums). The Art Gallery is usually pretty lame. Most of the time the exhibits all feature local talent (which we don't have much of apparently, because the art sucks). The only time I've ever enjoy our Art Gallery is when there is a famous out of town exhibit showing. I can't really speak for the Museum seeing I haven't been there since I was a kid. It was pretty neat back then though. You should ask her (and her boyfriend I guess) to accompany my wife and I to the Bushplane Museum. That might give you an in to hang with out in a pseudo crowd. ================================================= |
bamccaig
Member #7,536
July 2006
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Samuel Henderson said: We have both actually (in fact we have a couple museums). The Art Gallery is usually pretty lame. Most of the time the exhibits all feature local talent (which we don't have much of apparently, because the art sucks). The only time I've ever enjoy our Art Gallery is when there is a famous out of town exhibit showing.
Funnily enough today on my drive to work I saw a sign that read "Art Gallery -->". Samuel Henderson said: I can't really speak for the Museum seeing I haven't been there since I was a kid. It was pretty neat back then though.
Yeah, OK, I might be willing to see a museum. There's one across from the dentist office. I'm not sure what it is though. In any case, I can't very well invite just her to the museum either. That's still too much of a date, even if it's a lame one. Samuel Henderson said: You should ask her (and her boyfriend I guess) to accompany my wife and I to the Bushplane Museum. That might give you an in to hang with out in a pseudo crowd.
That would just be a double-date (where I'm tagging along, I guess?)! -- acc.js | al4anim - Allegro 4 Animation library | Allegro 5 VS/NuGet Guide | Allegro.cc Mockup | Allegro.cc <code> Tag | Allegro 4 Timer Example (w/ Semaphores) | Allegro 5 "Winpkg" (MSVC readme) | Bambot | Blog | C++ STL Container Flowchart | Castopulence Software | Check Return Values | Derail? | Is This A Discussion? Flow Chart | Filesystem Hierarchy Standard | Clean Code Talks - Global State and Singletons | How To Use Header Files | GNU/Linux (Debian, Fedora, Gentoo) | rot (rot13, rot47, rotN) | Streaming |
Neil Walker
Member #210
April 2000
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If you know what time she finishes, e.g. 4pm, next time you're in getting the sandwich you probably don't need, go about that time, chat about the weather and stuff and tell her you're finished work/school/whatever early and have nothing to do and does she want to go for a quick coffee. It's not a date (it'll be cheap for you) and it'll only last 30 minutes. I'm sure we'll all club together and write a script for you that'll make you look intelligent, interesting, funny, yet edgy with a hint of mystery. Neil. wii:0356-1384-6687-2022, kart:3308-4806-6002. XBOX:chucklepie |
Samuel Henderson
Member #3,757
August 2003
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bamccaig said: Pretty much anything with just her and I would be too date-like. Yeah. I agree. Quote: That would just be a double-date (where I'm tagging along, I guess?)! I'm sure we could get one of my wife's friends to tag along... Just be careful because they tend to be very desperate... Edit: ================================================= |
23yrold3yrold
Member #1,134
March 2001
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Samuel Henderson said: I can forsee lots of awkward silence ... That will be unavoidable regardless. -- |
Neil Black
Member #7,867
October 2006
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Awkward silences are the best silences.
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Derezo
Member #1,666
April 2001
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Are there any other kind? "He who controls the stuffing controls the Universe" |
Bob Keane
Member #7,342
June 2006
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Samuel Henderson said: I'm sure we could get one of my wife's friends to tag along... Just be careful because they tend to be very desperate... Are any of them rich? I second the wait for her quitting time to go for cofee idea. Its a lot less threatening. By reading this sig, I, the reader, agree to render my soul to Bob Keane. I, the reader, understand this is a legally binding contract and freely render my soul. |
bamccaig
Member #7,536
July 2006
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Neil Walker said: If you know what time she finishes, e.g. 4pm, next time you're in getting the sandwich you probably don't need, go about that time, chat about the weather and stuff and tell her you're finished work/school/whatever early and have nothing to do and does she want to go for a quick coffee.
She gets off at 7pm. Neil Walker said: I'm sure we'll all club together and write a script for you that'll make you look intelligent, interesting, funny, yet edgy with a hint of mystery.
Now you might be on to something. -- acc.js | al4anim - Allegro 4 Animation library | Allegro 5 VS/NuGet Guide | Allegro.cc Mockup | Allegro.cc <code> Tag | Allegro 4 Timer Example (w/ Semaphores) | Allegro 5 "Winpkg" (MSVC readme) | Bambot | Blog | C++ STL Container Flowchart | Castopulence Software | Check Return Values | Derail? | Is This A Discussion? Flow Chart | Filesystem Hierarchy Standard | Clean Code Talks - Global State and Singletons | How To Use Header Files | GNU/Linux (Debian, Fedora, Gentoo) | rot (rot13, rot47, rotN) | Streaming |
J-Gamer
Member #12,491
January 2011
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bamccaig said: Now you might be on to something.
Unless you're very good at acting, you won't be able to hide you studied it. It's even highly likely you'll forget everything when you stand in front of her... Good luck anyway " There are plenty of wonderful ideas in The Bible, but God isn't one of them." - Derezo |
Neil Walker
Member #210
April 2000
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bamccaig said: She gets off at 7pm. Nah. "I've had a hectic day today, no breaks at all and this is my lunch and dinner combined. I could do with a sit down and a coffee....." Neil. wii:0356-1384-6687-2022, kart:3308-4806-6002. XBOX:chucklepie |
Matthew Leverton
Supreme Loser
January 1999
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bamccaig said: She gets off at 7pm. Says the stalker. |
Neil Walker
Member #210
April 2000
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Matthew Leverton said: Says the stalker. That's an idea. If there's anyone else at a.cc living close to you get them to stalk her visibly to the point of terror then bamccaig happens to be in the neighbourhood, scares him away and wins the girl. Hurrah. Neil. wii:0356-1384-6687-2022, kart:3308-4806-6002. XBOX:chucklepie |
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