For what it's worth, I would have made the same decision you did.

A former housemate of mine was in a similar situation. He dated a girl in high school, broke up with her, she got married and had a son, contacted him some years later, they got together possibly as friends and had a son, she and her husband got divorced but still live together and I think they had another child, but the former housemate is paying almost half his paycheck to her in support. She is always pulling the former housemate into court to increase the payments or cut his visitation rights. I grew up in the same neighborhood as them and knew her before he did. I remember telling him I thought she was a bitch, but looking back I think that term was too strong. I think you dodged a bullet, Bambam, but maybe you should have told her you were too drunk to have sex.

Is piccolo a real person or just Yves on LSD?

OMG it's the big day!

Alright, bets are on! Everybody pick one:

1. Conversation is short and inconsequential.

2. She's (having trouble/broke up with) her boyfriend.

3. She says something like "You never called! "

4. She isn't working today.

I bet on 4.

HAHAHA

I'm getting mixed up already, I was thinking this is the thread about a random bipolar girl knocking on somebody's apartment door...

Did she give any indication that she remembered you? Like "Oh hi! Haven't seen you around lately" or something to that effect?

Nothing so obvious. The place was relatively busy. When I asked her out I actually waited until the only other person went into the back (is that good, bad, or neutral?). Anyway, today there were 2 or 3 other customers and a colleague so about 4 extra people in a tiny little sub shop. Nichole didn't take my order either; the other woman did.

I asked what was in the "veggie" sub trying to figure out if I wanted to try something new (and potentially more healthy). The woman said whatever I want. Inside I was wondering why they don't call it the "whatever you want" sub then. At this point, I think Nichole had moved over from the counter space where they make the subs (on the side) to the front counter where I was ordering, standing next to the woman actually taking my order. Doubtful, I naturally asked if "whatever I want" included meat. Of course, the answer to that was no. When I asked about the meat I think Nichole kind of laughed a bit, but it was too subtle to be sure. I'm probably inferring too much from it, but I digress. It was beginning to feel a little awkward with them both waiting on me (instead of going on with their business or stepping away from the counter until I had decided) so to speed it along I just ordered my usual. That same woman was working when I asked Nichole out (and in fact she's the one that took the order that time too) and they've both seen me in there a few times so I wouldn't be surprised if Nichole told her I asked her out. For all I know she asked her to stick around this time so we wouldn't be alone.

Nichole made my sub. I'm pretty sure she recognized me and "knew who I am", but I think she probably felt a little weird about it and maybe the opportunity for an ice breaker never came up (or maybe she was waiting for me to break the ice). Maybe the fact that she was perhaps shy is a good sign since until now she's always been very outgoing with me and everybody else in the "restaurant". Then again, it could be a bad sign too. Who knows. I don't think it's worth hoping for, but I guess there's always the possibility that she does split up with her boyfriend and brings it up when she sees me next. We'll see (or we won't); whatever.

I'd had hit her. You never know when such an occasion will arise a new time. Maybe .... Never !!

Edit: "She has a new boyfriend", Oh boy, that one is soooooo good ^^

Edit 2: Your topic and talks made me remember a sentence by Pierre Desproges, a famous French comic: "L'intelligence c'est comme le parachute, quand on en a pas on s'ecrase."

I've suffered from "wax in the ears" because I was afraid, it takes judgement and experience to know for fairly certain.

Come on, she walked over, took over on making your sub, and laughed at something not-so-funny that you said. You need to man up, break the ice, and strike up conversation with her.

She didn't "take over". I think when conditions allow they usually have one person making the sandwiches while the other works the register and deals with the people. When it's those two that are working Nichole usually (always?) does make the sandwich.

For whatever reason, I was rather more uncomfortable than usual. My neck felt really stiff and I just couldn't relax. I hope she didn't feel a similar discomfort, but I suspect that she did. The weird thing was that it stuck with me all day long. I noticed it at work sitting at my desk all alone. Something about it really shook me up, I guess. I don't know.

What I do know is that I suck at making conversation. I can't even make conversation with family (e.g., aunts/uncles, parents, brother, etc.). I can talk about something specific, but I usually either have more to say then they care to listen to or I have nothing to say at all. I haven't figured out small talk yet. When I interact with people I always let them lead the conversation.