Well said James.

On the contrary, I found Goalie's reaction rather funny and think nothing less of him as a result. I may not technically be a girl, but we all know I like cats and girly anime, so my opinion counts darn it ><

Diana, I refute your right to gang up on people. I do this on the grounds that you are a (real) girl.

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Thank you guys for your comments.

I was really pissed off friday and then I calmed down and analyzed the situation like a scientist would do. Removing yourself from the situation sometimes gives you a different perspective on things. Anyways, I had a talk with her before I walked away friday night and gave her time to think about it. She thought about it and we ended it two days later.

I'm never shy or embarrased of who I am. I'm confident in who I am and what frustrates me is that other people are not. I hate playing games and that is what people do. Generally i'm a very open and honest person and I hate it when people aren't like that back. It shows a complete lack of respect when people play games. The fun part about breaking up is getting others to be honest with themselves as well. That and finally cleaning up and closing off.

I'm much happier now that I know how things stand and eveything is sorted out and organized in my head. I'd much rather be alone than be treated without respect.

No. I hate playing games especially my own. Nothing is more painful and stressful than trying to delicately manoeuver around tricky situations and even if you find balance it isn't a natural equilibrium and will come crashing down. The truth is meant to be free. I'd much rather just be obvious about stuff.

Nar, you're thinking of first blood. It usually isn't the same thing. I think the main advantage of first-dump is that it gives you is a shield to protect your self esteem.

Congrats and Happy Birthday!